Authenticity - Who are you?

Who are you? 

Beneath all the comparison and jealousy, under all those layers of not-enoughness...who are you?

If you forget all of the “failures", the "mistakes", if you let go of your fear of rejection...who are you?

When you put aside your need to put others before yourself all the time...who are you?

Because I want to see you. I want the world to see you. I want you to start showing up! 

It's hard not to get lost in this over-stimulated world. We are constantly surrounded by posts and pictures and words and opinions, and somehow along the way, we turn all of this noise into an expectation of how we think life should look, how we should be, who we should be and what we should do or have.

We begin to feel an urgency for the type of life we think we want, and the timeline we think we want it, and the kind of person we think we need to be in order to get it.

All of the sudden happiness is outside of us!! All of the sudden we have to earn the happiness? 

Stop running away, do the work. Drop the identity youre carrying around, drop the BS stories.

You want a big life? Then get your hands dirty and do the work. Walk into the fire. Expose yourself, feel what it feels like to love so deeply and live wholeheartedly.

You want big life? Then its time to get real with yourself babe. 

Own and embrace the parts of you you'd rather not show anyone, especially yourself. The mishaps, the so called flaws, the bumps, the bruises, the dark shadowy parts. You cant hide them any longer, i want you to be the REAL you. Its time! 

Because you are the "you" you are right now, right this moment. And there is nothing more magnetic than someone who is comfortable and confident in their own skin, however “damaged” they may believe themselves to be. Your tribe will find you, but only if you let them. If you allow yourself to receive, exactly as you are. The universe will always provide to someone who knows how to receive. 

Authenticity isn’t always the easy option, but whats harder, hiding yourself for the rest of your life? Hiding your gifts, your magic, talents that could change the world. You are doing a disservice to not only yourself but those around you. I really believe when we shine our light, we allow to find the strength to shine theirs also. As they say courage is contagious. 

Most people are drawn to those who are light, warm, bright, down to earth, easy to connect with, honest people. We also all aspired to be someone like that ourselves.

But sadly in a society like ours that dictates what we should eat, how we should dress, what we should weigh, who we should love, become or even be friends with this can be a huge challenge. 

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards, they try do have more things, more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. 
The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you are, then do what you really need to do in order have what you really want
- Margaret young

What does being authentic even mean, most people assume it that we are all either authentic or inauthentic. Like you simply have the quality or you don’t. 

But what I believe is that its actually a conscious choice and decision we have to make on a daily basis. Its not something that we have or do not have. It is something we literally have to practice. 

As Brene Brown shares ‘ Authentic is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. Its about the choice to show up and be real. A choice to be honest, The choice to let our true selves be seen.

We can all get triggered by people and experiences which create within us self doubt and acting out as someone we are not. 

So how can you be a little more authentic in your every day life, leading you to be more of you, to really allow your inner goddess to shine:

  • Firstly it means letting go of what you think you’re supposed to do, who you are supposed to be and truly embracing who you really are. 

  • Allowing yourself to be vulnerable (important if we wish to experience connection with others) 

  • Setting boundaries and holding true to your core values (don’t shrink for others, nor react, stand your ground and truth) 

  • Practicing Compassion 

  • Having courage to accept that you are perfectly imperfect.

  • The knowing that you are enough as you are. 

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight - and never stop fighting. “Staying Real” is one of the most courageous battles well ever fight
- E.E. Cummings 

If you’ve got your journal there, let me ask you this - 

What triggers, thoughts and emotions come up for you when you think about living more authentic, to consciously choosing to be your true authentic self..

Clients thoughts : 

  • I don’t want to upset others 

  • I don’t want to hurt anyones feelings 

  • I am afraid that Ill be ridiculed for my opinions  

  • What If no one likes me 

  • What If I cause conflict with my partner 

  • What If my friends don’t like me when I start sharing more of who I am 

Sacrificing who we really are at the core for others, playing small and hiding ourselves just isnt worth it. When we ignore what our desires, expressions and ideas we suffer. 

If we seek acceptance and people don’t like us, then we set ourselves up for feeling unworthiness, feeling not enough. 

So babe its time for you to let go, its time to start truly living and to be honest i hope you do trip a few times and fall flat on your face and have your heart broken into a million pieces. So that you develop, you grow. When you break, you have no other choice but to heal, repair and rise  I hope you get rejected and embarrassed. I hope you really, really try and end up just not quite making it. I hope you let people in, I hope you never give up. I hope that you have so many experiences this year that shape you into the best version of you. I hope for all of the light and dark and bumps in the road as this will mean youre really showing up fully.

Im sick of hearing 'oh but I just cant yet bec'.

There is no perfect time to start, except for now! Love who you want, live how you want to live. 

Just start living, do you, and the rest will follow. I promise - When youre authentic the rest just flows through 

And one day you'll look back and see that by allowing yourself to be who you really are, as awkward and messy as that person may seem to be, you allowed yourself to fully step into who you are, to really blossom into all of your greatness 

And that? That is where the real magic happens. 

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{My personal opinions and journey should not be mistaken for professional medical or healthcare advice}