In life timing really is everything but you know we still have choices.
Some of the hardest relationships we will ever deal with are often the ones that aren’t really relationships at all. They are the in-between people, the ones that you choose to endure.
You are not a victim in this world. We create the world we live through.
Ask yourself this – why are you choosing to cling to something or someone that isn’t choosing you. What are you so scared of losing if you let go?
No matter how strong and intoxicating the love is, is this really a love you would ever choose if you were asked for what you wanted. My point exactly, so why do you continue to choose it.
I highly doubt that you wake up every morning and consciously choose and pray for a love that’s so fickle, so fragile.
What I see mostly with my clients and myself included at times that we actually forget that people come into our life for a reason as do they leave for a reason too. Everyone in this lifetime has a bag full of lessons and gifts for us to learn. Especially the special ones - the soul mates. Which in this lifetime you will have loads of.
These are the powerful ones, the ones who peel back your layers, bring to light the things you need to go through to grow and learn and becoming more of who you are at your core.
I ask that you let them do their job, then let them go once its done.
There will be ones who completely shatter you, those who put you back together and there will be others who will do both concurrently.
There will be ones who are whole, look perfect on paper but still not right for you no matter how hard you try.
There will also be some that you let go of only for them to return because the timing is better, the timing is right and you still need to learn more from them.
Then there will ones who you love so much but you must still let go of.
Be grateful for each and every one of them, as they all are hear to teach you. Look back on the past and aks yourself what did that person teach me, what lessons did I experience and pass, what did I then grow on to become? Each person teaches you more and more about what you want for yourself.
They show you how you need and want to be loved – especially when you received the opposite.
Trying to make someone who you want them to be doesn’t serve you or them. Why do you cling so hard to the idea of how you want someone to be or look, why cant you look at the person standing in front of you for all that they are.
Remembering that they are on their own journey as are you.
I know its hard when you are hurting and someone has shattered you, ive been there, many times before. They are just bringing to the surface what needs to be healed. They are shining light on the lessons you need to learn, they are the key to your growth.
People that hurt you are hurting more than you realise, you cant cause pain like that if you aren’t trying to run from it yourself.
I must say its ok to leave, its safe to let go, do not stay, do not tolerate anything less than you deserve, don’t excuse it.
Just REMEMBERto understand its not about you, its not you, its not because of you. Its never about you.
I know sometimes too that the worst pain can actually come from someone who doesn’t even care enough to do any damaged to you, they don’t even see you, they don’t care enough to even take a look. That’s the kind of pain that makes you feel insignificant, lonely and destroyed.
When you feel like you aren’t being seen, that you are invisible to the one you have chosen, remember not to confuse the fact that they cant love you for being not enough, unlovable or desirable.
Remember its not about you!
It never is!
Ask yourself, what are you attracting? What do you need to learn from that? What do you keep repeating, who loves are you chasing and craving?
You have a choice to take the next step, to not play victim.
You are ok babe, get out of your own way and you’ll see how truly magical you can be.
"We are so afraid to change careers, to end relationships, to outgrow people or places—and that’s just growth. To me, choosing to go toward the cracking in order to keep expanding is the only way. The only way to get out of pain is to go through it. Pain is information—which I think is one of the most profound things anyone has ever said to me. It is literally a piece of information.”